The entanglement of your parent’s expectations and your own is a complicated symphony of nostalgia, social norms, and ego. So it’s not surprising to find that the complexity runs so deep that you may not even know where your true desires start and your parents desires end. So many couples say that they have simply “given in” to the pressures of their parents, but remember, my friend — it’s your wedding, so it also needs to be rooted in your rituals.
From the time you were old enough to consume media and films, you have been bombarded with an image of what your “big day” should look like. That “big day” I’m talking about is your wedding. The media has successfully fooled us into believing that wedding happiness looks like a cookie-cutter Disney princess movie, with a heavy dose of blush-toned Pinterest boards. Keep reading to find out why your wedding should not be the best day of your life.
Stacey and her wife, Katie, got married last year in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Stacey shares with us some of the things she learned about the wedding process, and she believes that finding the wedding photographers who perfectly suite you and your partner, is almost as important as finding the love of your life.
It doesn’t feel good to list and prioritize the people in your life. Once you start getting serious about creating your wedding guest list, you might realize that this social challenge is not only logistical, it can also be pretty emotional. Creating an Intentional Guest List is more important than you might think. Read on for how to get real about who to invite to your unique wedding.
We are a generation of self proclaimed rebels; we express our individuality loud and proud. We have taken it upon ourselves to disrupt just about all aspects of life as our parents, and their parents, knew it to be. Astonishingly though, we still avoid the big questions when it comes to weddings: why the customs and traditions from thousands of years ago are still relevant and whether they should be practiced at all.
You’re not wrong when you say that wedding vendors can charge a lot. It’s also true that weddings can be 24-carat gold expensive. But, before you grab your protest sign and mega phone, I have to tell you something honestly — the reason wedding vendors charge what they do is for good reason.
In case you haven’t noticed it, everyone has a different opinion about weddings. It should not come as a surprise that one person’s opinion about weddings would be different from the next because we all live such different lives from each other. We experience relationships differently, we grow-up in different cultures which give different weight to weddings and marriage in general, we experience religion and education differently, and we each come with our own set of values. So the question begs to be asked, what does your unconventional wedding look like?
Worried that people are judging your wedding decisions? You are not alone. That panicked feeling you have when you think about all the things that could go wrong on the day of your wedding, is exacerbated by the fact that we have equated our wedding day with performance and perfectionism. I spent 5 years planning weddings and here is one thing I can say with certainty; nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do.
When it comes to planning your ultimate celebration of love, you don’t need to follow any rules but your own. Learn how our societal traditions surrounding wedding etiquette can impact your plans for an unconventional wedding. Saying no to the status quo of yesterday’s traditions, and saying yes to today’s age of unique wedding planning for you, the unconventional bride.