When you start planning a wedding in today’s world, it becomes painstakingly clear that you simply must have bespoke paper invitations hand-addressed by a calligrapher, you absolutely have to have cute gifts for your guests to take home, and of course, you have to have a dress for the ceremony AND another for the reception. Don’t even think about not having an open bar! So, where exactly do you have the room to express what you really value when you are constantly busy fulfilling someone else’s ideal wedding plan?
The entanglement of your parent's expectations and your own is a complicated symphony of nostalgia, social norms, and ego. So it’s not surprising to find that the complexity runs so deep that you may not even know where your true desires start and your parents desires end. So many couples say that they have simply “given in” to the pressures of their parents, but remember, my friend — it's your wedding, so it also needs to be rooted in your rituals.
From the time you were old enough to consume media and films, you have been bombarded with an image of what your “big day” should look like. That “big day” I’m talking about is your wedding. The media has successfully fooled us into believing that wedding happiness looks like a cookie-cutter Disney princess movie, with a heavy dose of blush-toned Pinterest boards. Keep reading to find out why your wedding should not be the best day of your life.